Let me start by defining what loyalty means. Dictionary.com defines loyalty as the state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations. The Collins English dictionary says loyalty is the quality of staying firm in your friendship or support for someone or something, (www.collinsdictionary.com). I agree with both of these definitions as loyalty to me means being down for someone regardless, having their back always, and being a true friend. I believe that true friends are loyal to each other.
Now these kids, as the headline indicates don’t know what it means to be truly loyal. Shoot in fact some adults don’t know what loyalty means or even how to be loyal. They will smile in your face and talk about you behind your back. These are the folks I’m referring to when I say these kids ain’t loyal! I’ve been in a number of situations where I could have chosen to not be loyal, however that’s not in my DNA. I’ve even been in situations where there were folks who weren’t loyal to me. I’m loyal to a point, shoot I’ll even have your back when you’re wrong, however I’m going to let you know that you’re dead wrong, but I support your decision. I won’t turn my back on you. Don’t get me wrong, if the state of our relationship has changed because of circumstances or whatever, I probably won’t be as loyal as I was previously because our relationship has changed. I may still be friendly and if I’m able to support I will, however you are not a priority for me anymore. I believe that in today's society, we have lost the true definition of loyalty. We have strayed away from being faithful to our commitments and we have supported our friends conditionally. What I mean by that is that some folks will have your back but only when it’s convenient for them. If it’s not working in their favor then they sway to the other side or do nothing at all.
Loyalty is just being faithful and supportive of your family, friends and others. One thing you should do is to be sure you know what loyalty means to you.
Here are a few tips on how you can be loyal in your relationships.
1. Be 100% honest and realistic
2. Treat others as you would like to be treated
3. Be faithful, committed, and supportive in your relationships
These are just a few that I live by, however I’m sure you have some of your own because we all view loyalty differently. Please share in the comments some tips on how you can be loyal in your relationships.
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